I am not a worrier, and I know it's very hard for people with that type of personality to be around me, but I'm just not. I feel the world would move a little easier if people wouldn't worry about things they can't control.
For instance, here are something's I've noticed people worry about that absolutely roll off of my back likes it's no issue.
What my kids are doing every second of the day. I realize my kid just ate something off of the floor, guess what, can't do anything about it now . Not worried about it. It's 25 degrees outside and my son doesn't want to wear his jacket...his choice, no stress. (*disclaimer...I do not have teenagers, so I realize this might and more than likely will change eventually).
Being late. Oh, no I'm going to be ten minutes late to the birthday party, family Christmas, surprise party, any event in my life!!!!...the world will keep spinning I assure you! Anytime I plan an event I always give people a time frame, for instance, be there between 6 and 6:30. This way no one stresses! Well, except for the early bird that gets there at 5:55. That will never be me, btw.
What people are saying about me. So, someone doesn't agree with something I've said, what I wore, how I look, etc. etc. etc...glad they're thinking about me. So my kids are screaming in walmart, and the hag next to me gives me the "control your kids death glare"....obviously she's never had kids or has been blessed with angels straight from heaven (for those of you without kids, mine are the norm, hers are not)...oh well, she'll get over the look when I enter the next aisle. I wasn't born to please everyone and guess what, never will, no need to sweat about it.
Work and anything related. I do my best at what I do everyday. Whether that's with my actual job or school work when I was in college. I'm not great at meeting deadlines weeks before they're due (see worry, or lack of I guess, in bullet 2)...but I get it in on time, and generally it will be better than what someone else pulled off 3 weeks before the due date. I know sometimes it really makes it hard to work with me because of this laisse faire attitude, but I've been blessed to work with principals that know that although the deadline is tomorrow and I haven't started on the Veteran's Day program slide show yet, I will pull it off and it will be just what they wanted.
Relationships. The friends I have in my life are there because they provide a worry free area for me. They are not surrounded by drama. They also do not expect a lot out of me, that sounds terrible but they know my personality, they accept it, and that's why they're in my life. So you don't get the wrong idea about that last statement here's an example...anytime we have a get together we generally all bring food. For starters, if I have time I might cook something , but they all know 99% of the time I'm going to grab something pre made. It doesn't bother me to not have a homemade dish, and it doesn't bother them that I brought the Del Rio green sauce vs preparing the stuffed jalepenos wrapped in bacon. I do not have to pretend to be Better Homemaker or some woman trying to live up to a Pinterest standard. Oh, and they also know I'll be late for the gathering. Guess what? No one cares!
Things I can't control. Oh my gosh my mother and sister are pros at this category!!! They will worry about what they might be doing on a Saturday two months from now! I don't understand it. I've literally said those exact words to them. I can't control the weather, the government, small town politics, etc, etc, etc! I will not let things that are totally out of my hands cause wrinkles on my face.
I know this isn't typical, and many Type A personalities are cringing at every worry I've written about or thinking, yep that's me. As mentioned earlier, those include my madre and sister. Often time we do not see eye to eye because they are walking stress balls waiting to explode, and I'm big ball of "just don't care"...not that I don't care, I just let it go.
In saying all of that, I will admit I have some pretty out there irrational fears...I'll save that for another time. I also have had my moments of very high stress, I can probably count those on one hand...and within a few hours I was over it. We always laugh and say I will be the last person (besides my dad, who worries even less than me) to die of a heart attack. I'll take those odds.
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